“Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.”
J. R. R. Tolkien
Today is trash day at my house. It’s that one day every week where the stuff that is used, rotten, and no longer wanted gets put on the curb to be sent to the city dump. Every week this happens. The stuff I don’t want gets driven away by guys who ride on the back of fast moving truck never to be seen again.
Throwing away trash is a great idea if you don’t want to end up on an episode of hoarders. Here’s the problem though, we have started to apply this same principle to relationships and people. Just as soon as someone is longer of use to us, we toss them away with last week’s moldy cheese.
I have a confession to make. I have been the person doing the throwing, and I have been the person left on the curb because my value has been used up and the other person just wanted to get what they wanted out of me and then toss me away. Humans aren’t designed to be tossed away; we are designed with a backbone to do the hard work of relationships and collaboration.
I’ve seen this unfold in my city of Nashville. I have seen this unfold in the creative community, and sadly I have seen it unfold in “friendships” where it became clear that one person was using the other as a stepping stone to lift them to where they wanted to go. I understand sometimes God sends us people for a season but too often we think that means that we should toss them aside rather than commit to the long haul.
We must stop treating each other like we are spoiled little brats collecting shiny new people only to forget about the old ones. If you are sitting on the curb because you have been tossed aside, I am deeply sorry and feel your pain. If you are the disposing of people, I beg you to stop it. Head out to curb and rescue them before they end up in a heap forgotten. In the words of the wise Sweet Brown, “…ain’t nobody got time for that!”