“Just do One Thing”
I hate this idea so much. The very thought of it makes me angry. What if Steve Jobs would have stopped with just making awesome computers. What if Oprah had just been content being a news anchor in Nashville. Walt if Walt Disney would have just stuck with cartoons. What if Martin Luther King Jr would have just found a nice church in Atlanta to Pastor.
History is full of people who didn’t just stop at one thing. Now I will stay starting with one thing is probably a good idea, wait???? No, I wouldn’t the only way to know what you are actually good at is to try it. If you are ADD or ADHD please I beg you embrace that squirrel and chase it. It may take you somewhere awesome!
“Successful People Get up Early”
Maybe. I know lots of people that work late that are really successful. I don’t trust music producers who use PC’s and who work early in the morning. Discover what works for you. For me going to bed before midnight is a waste of time. When I go to sleep I try and get 7-9 hours of sleep. If I get less a try and grab a quick nap. That’s what works for me. The next time someone tells you this tell them “Successful people don’t give bad advice.”
“You’re perfect just the way you are.”
@#$@$%D! No, you’re not! I’m not. I’m a jacked up sinner in need of divine intervention. You don’t need to lean into “your truth” you need the actual truth from people willing to tell it to you. Find humans who will tell you how jacked up you are and help you step into who you need to be. Iron sharpens Iron isn’t just some ancient Proverb but one that still is very much true today. I’ve been around some people that have achieved success at the highest levels but everyone was full of flaws and needed a team around them to help elevate them to the level they need to be at.
“Love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life.”
Good gosh I love what I do. I get to do amazing things. Last week alone I got to help 10 people wrestle through their ideas at a luxury suite at my one of my favorite resorts and help them discover a path to make them a reality. I spent several days in a theme park with great friends learning, collaborating, and teaching. I got to produce one of the best conferences I’ve ever attended. I’m exhausted! I worked my butt off and after a mostly sleeping for 36 hours, I’m back at it. Planning 2-3 more events. Preparing Keynotes for 2 talks coming in the next few weeks. I pinch myself that I get to do what I do. It’s still A LOT of work. I’ve been working 6+ days a week on this event since February, and a ton before. As my friend Larry Winget says, “It’s called work for a reason.” Maybe the advice should be, Love what you do and you will have a lot more fun doing it.
“Follow this exact Blueprint…”
Nothing works like that. Just go try on a bathrobe that says “one size fits all” When you try and fit everyone, you actually end up fitting no one. The sooner you stop trying to copy of the kids next to you in class the sooner you actually learn something. People that succeed in life are most often those that define it for themselves. You don’t need my plan you need yours. Get to work doing the hard work of designing the plan and get out your hammer and start building. I don’t need what systems work for you I need to discover what works for me. Now you better believe I’m gonna reverse engineer every success and failure I can but I’m definitely not going to copy them for sure.
What piece of advice do you wish people would stop giving?